Hi Everyone,
I, Michael Lettman, would like to share my work on Social Relationships.
This Social Relationships' post is about Family. I'll share with you about my relationship with my own family & how I care for families, which also includes "Precious Adorables" (babies & children).
I have to be honest that I feel like I can be a little too much on my own family with not just my autism but also my own behavior. When I go off stimming (by my cartoon mind), I usually do it in hallways of my house. I admit that I can get carried away when I sometimes release some excitement (due to my stimming). Sometimes a few of them don't like when I do that but I think they're used to me doing it since I can't do it anywhere else. There were times when they try to explain the right things that I need to do but I sometimes interrupt them when they're talking & keep talking back from my own feelings which shows that I can be very stubborn, selfish, & don't listen. I think I need to know better when they just want to help me so I wouldn't face any trouble in my life. If something went wrong because I didn't listen to my family then that's what I deserve for not listening to the ones that I should trust because they truly care about their high-functioning autistic family member.
My Grandmother Guardian
My Grandmother (from my Father's side) has raised me with love & care since I was 3 years old & I'm truly grateful for everything that she has ever done for me. Since I was a terrible troublemaker back when I was little, there was struggle but she still held on to me. I had learned some lessons from what I've done as I grew up from being raised by my grandmother. She has been working hard with 2 jobs & one of them makes her come home VERY late (after midnight). She has finally retired from that long-time afternoon job & I don't have to worry about her coming home late anymore which made me very relieved. Sometimes I get very worried whenever she's out there & I've really felt sorry for her working a lot. I have a lot of hope in her to PLEASE hang in there & be very careful out there so she will FINALLY get the rest that she truly deserves.
My Big Sis
My Full-Blooded Older Sibling & I grew up together since we were both raised by our Grandmother Guardian. During the holidays which is my special quality time with her, we set up the Christmas Tree together along with putting on the decorations. Sometimes we go Christmas shopping together for our giving to our family. We set up the presents under our tree by Christmas time which also includes separating them to who they're for & then our family sit together opening our presents one at a time on Christmas morning. We also have our special holiday music that we like to listen to: Kenny G. Faith, A Holiday Album (we only like 5 songs of it). We truly care about each other & I have lots of hope for her to be truly happy in her future as I'm her full-blooded autistic little brother. As of now, My Full-Blooded Big Sis has moved away to Oregon to begin her future which means it was time for her to move on to her new future life of working hard & taking care of things for herself. I'll surely miss her but I'm also proud of her for being very independent & I'm sure she'll be just fine plus she sometimes visit whenever she has the chance to since she still loves our family. I'll hope for her to be with us during the holidays for our special quality time but if for understanding reasons that she's unable to come then I'll see if I can take care of things for myself or she'll help me figure things out during the time she's with us before she leaves so I won't feel lonely & lose my Christmas Spirit.
My Respect for Families & Adorables
Since I've been watching good families on my past shows for a long time, I enjoy seeing some families here in the real world especially because I really like babies & children. I even made up a nickname that I like to call to the young ones: Adorables. While I was working at a childcare center, I always enjoy seeing parents drop off & picking up their children from there. I do know most families breaking up because things didn't work out but there are still some full families out there that stood together & are truly happy. Some broken-up families are also happy when they have work out with their differences. So whether broken-up or stood together, there are some happy families & adorables out there enjoying their lives here on our Planet Earth.
How do you maintain long term positive relationships with family?
I believe people should try to chat with their family members to understand what they're like & how they feel. Giving them nice compliments might make it into a nice touching family moment that you'll feel great about. Being very considerate might not be so hard for a family living in Great Happiness. Try taking it easy with conflicts because family quarrels can lead to unhappy feelings on the inside for families. It's best to keep in contact with family members (with phone number, email, social media, or others) to raise up your bond with them. Even if they are very far away from you, they're still your family that you'll continue to bond with.
Social Relationships - Romance
I like the kind of families that stayed together for the rest of their lives with less break-ups, official marriage, & happy children that have grown-ups from being raised by long-time parents. This may be what Michael Lettman would like to have in his future if he choose to accept the world of romance.
I do know there's broken-up families that are happily doing OK for understandable reasons that have been worked out but I think I don't like a few kinds of families that are unhappily broken-up from unforgivable results. No offense but sometimes I don't like how parents betray each other by cheating, affairs, confrontations, or becoming untrustworthy. Stuff like that can lead to ruining everything for families that were once happy then become all broken-up. This would be what Michael Lettman does NOT want to get involved in if he accepts the world of romance.
From my Perspective
So I would like to say to everyone that people with autism have different relationships with their families & I'm hoping that they have close relationships with each other especially if it's very difficult. Since I'm close to my family, some autistic people should also be close to their family members. So please try your best to bond with your family & do lots of activities together with love & care.
This was the 5th video of my project explaining a bit about my relationship with my family (during that time) along with how I feel about families, Please Enjoy!
NOTE: MOST of the stuff I've mentioned about my relationship with my family in this video has changed a bit since then!
My 1st MSC Cruise Trip
During the Summer of 2018, I received an invite from My Mother's Side of my family to join them on a cruise trip for celebrating a family member's graduation. It was worth waiting for over a year to attend that trip in the Summer of 2019 & it felt very new that I've slept on a moving cruise trip for several nights. I got to know family members that I've never met or remembered (because I was younger) & they were nice to talk with. We've enjoyed our food, we got to see some sights, we've enjoyed seeing some shows on the ship, we've been relaxing at beaches from our stops, & we've had some good times together as a family which I've truly enjoyed. It was thanks to My Mother's Side of my family that I got to experience being on a cruise trip for the first time ever so I'm grateful to them for a great trip & I'll hope to experience another trip like that in my life.
I would like to share from my perspective during Day 6 of My 1st MSC Cruise Trip, Please Enjoy!